Sign and Symtoms of Spousal Abuse

Spousal abuse is very dehumanizing, sometimes you wake feeling like you have to “walk on eggshells” to keep your partner

from getting angry and are frightened by his temper. From my experience in this kind of problem it certainly can be very hard to

deal with them. Women especially live with a lot of denial and they do not understand that the more they hold spousal abuse prone husband, the more

the chances of more dangerous events happening in their lives becomes inevitable.

Here are some of the experience and complains that are very common in spousal abuse in relationship.

(1) He comes in the evening sometimes breathing fire for very small things that do not warrant that kind of a reaction.

You feel as if u can wake up pack and disappear and forget that he ever existed in your life it starts dawning on you that this is spousal abuse.

(2) spousal abuse is when He is always complaining and pushing me to stop meeting some of my friends or family members, or even give up hobbies or activities that i develop because he does not like them or my associates.

(3) I don’t have the courage and strength to tell him my feeling and worries about our relationship he may hurt me if i tell him.

(4) I don’t question his directive am always compliant. I would not want to hurt his feelings. I love him that much that am always ready to

rescue him when he is in trouble and i keep asking myself whether this spousal abuse will stop one day.

(5) I always feel as if he was made for me and the best way is to reform him. I find myself on the receiving end, always i have to apologize to him for things that am honestly not part of. In this cases i feel so much used but i love him, i avoid confrontations. In most cases i will go down into tears and cry to the almighty heavenly father to intervene and hope this spousal abuse will come to an end.

(6) I always stop expressing my opinions if he doesn’t seem to agree with them and that way am able to keep the home atmosphere conducive for both of us and keep hoping that one all this will come to rest.

(7) Its spousal abuse when he sometimes kicks, hits and throws some objects at me when he is angry or jealous over something. I have to cheat my personal physicians when i see him for treatment otherwise i will expose him to ridicule. I always keep playing that this spousal abuse will cease one day

(8) One thing i don’t like about him is that he is always critical of any step that i make. He never appreciates my efforts.

When it comes to spousal abuse and in this kind of a scenario i always advice women not to wait, your man will not change and if he does, it will not be through pestering, you are not to blame, many of you are experiencing the same problem.

If you have been a victim of spousal abuse and cannot control the violence call the police. if you have been assaulted at this time what matters is your life and safety. By charging an abusive male it no doubts reduces physical violence. Make sure that all the records of what has been happening are intact. From this time on develop a safety plan for yourself and the children if any exists. Remember no one has a right to enslave you. Like any other human being your human rights are paramount and spousal abuse has no place in the modern society.

When looking for a man avoid men who do not listen to women, those who always want to push to get what they want and them who are always seen to be jealous and possessive. These kind of men have a tendency to develop a spousal abuse characteristics.