Is Your Marriage Abusive?

There is no reason to get divorced, or at least that is what many marriage counseling experts say.  They believe that marriage is a sacred vow that you take the other person for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and that you stay in it for the long haul.  But what about abuse?

Abuse in a relationship is never to be tolerated, and yet, it doesn’t mean that you need to get divorced, of course depending on the severity of the situation and whether or not the other party is willing to get help.  Many people look to marriage counselors to solve their marriage problems, but truly what is needed is an open communication allowing each partner to freely express themselves without attacks or physical assaults. 

Abuse needs to be acknowledged and some help needs to sought, separation may be necessary along with individual counseling apart from each other.  If the abusive party is not interested in getting help then you may need to leave and get out of the situation.

Here are some steps you may want to follow:  You need to communicate to the abuser you’re not going to stand for the abusive behavior anymore.  That they must get help and not continue the behavior.  Make sure you have some clothes packed for escape if the abuse reoccurs.  Let someone who can be objective know what is happening.  Be ready to call the police, if a situation arises call 911.

Some people can work out the difficulties but others can’t reach that goal.  If you are in a bad situation where you are afraid then you need to leave.  Don’t stay in a relationship that is like a prison, you need to go on and find the life you deserve with someone else who appreciates you.