Child Custody – 2 Proven “Flips” to Make False Child Abuse Allegations Work for You – Part 1 of 2

There is no more terrifying feeling than being in the middle of a high conflict custody battle with your ex, unless it’s being thrown completely off guard by being falsely accused of child abuse. Wouldn’t it be great if you could turn the tables and make it work against them? Now you can. 

Most of us are caught like deer in the headlights when we get the news that we have been accused of some reckless, dangerous, or heinous act involving our children. It is enough to make you physically ill. If you were once naive enough to believe that you would both be truthful and let the court decide your case based on the facts, you now face a serious wake-up call. Your case will now focus on horrendous accusations of child abuse which will detract from the case you had once built. How do you deal with it and put it back on track? Let’s take a look. 

Child Abuse – Physically harming the child 

What kind of person falsely accuses a parent of child abuse? That is the question you will get to ask once you flip it on them. This one comes in two different flavors, “With” and “Without” Child Protective Services (CPS). Let’s look at both. 

First let’s look at charges of abuse without CPS. 

The ex has decided that you are to credible and getting too much positive attention from the courts. They want to bring you down a peg or two, so they tell the court you abuse the child. They may give a couple of examples that have just a hint of truth, like the child did something that needed to be punished so you put them on timeout or maybe spanked them (never spank again, you can discipline without it and it looks bad in court). The fact that there is an element of truth is the most difficult element here. 

You will need to explain that truthful element. That is the child was with you and something happened. Freely admit the truth that the child was with you but explain that either nothing happened or that what happened is not abuse and that you have simply have different opinions on how to raise your child. Then move on and take the offensive. 

Here’s the “flip”. If the ex really thought it was child abuse and the child was in danger, why didn’t they call the police or CPS? A parent who truly believes their child is being abused would not wait to call the authorities. The fact is they don’t like you or the way you parent so they label it abuse when it is really a difference of opinion. 

They now have a history of lying to the court and you get to use it against them forever. They wrongfully accused you of child abuse but never called the authorities and only used it as a tactic. What kind of parent does that? A parent who cares more about winning than ensuring the healthy relationship and bond between the child’s parents.